So I am in relationship limbo, and I’m not the one holding the stick. EH and his BM (Baby Momma and yes I realize the initials can be used to mean something else *sly grin*) is still blissfully cohabitating, the baby is here, but EH and I are still married.
We are still married because the day we were supposed to discuss finances prior to scheduling a meeting with a lawyer, BM went into labor. So, EH hasn’t had time to deal with it and I choose not to because I’m being Passive Aggressive. (Can you be passive aggressive while still acknowledging it? Would that make it Conscious Passivity? )
I realize the thing that bother’s me the most about this whole thing is that after 22 years, I’m going to have to go out and date again. (I may have kvetched about this before, but it still REALLY sucks.)
I don’t think I know how to date. I’m kind of a tense and sort of angry person in general. I’m slightly more mellow than I used to be, because I’m medicated and I’ve learned to better control my aggression so I don’t drop dead of a rage induced stroke.
So where does one start when dating? I met EH at an audition for a band. I was auditioning to be the singer. We did have an instant connection and three dates in it was as if we had always been together.
Maybe this is not the best example.
The guy I dated before that was four years younger than me and very pretty. We met college. He was an incoming freshman and I was a graduating Senior. It was fun and rife with dating drama. We are still friends.
But other than that, I don’t really remember just dating someone. I hung out with a few winners (No names please, but suffice it to say that their combined IQ’s don’t add up to a respectable number.) Some of these guys referred to me as their girlfriend or friend. I can actually only think of two that actively acknowledged my presence in public.
All of these relationships were post high school and do not include the guy I was engaged to my Senior year in high school.
I blocked that out.
I have become eerily aware of the stories/Stand-Up Comedy/Bad Game Shows/Youtube videos about dating.
This story on Jezebel is a microcosm of what I fear in dating
If you choose not to check it out it’s the recap of some guy who posted a personal ad on Craig’s List who is open to dating all kinds of women, as long as they aren’t older than 27. He will ask for ID to verify age. He has a FAQ section on his ad to clear out anyone who might actually consider dating his pompous ass.
Part of me wonder’s if this guy has Asperger’s Syndrome or something similar. It has been my experience that someone on that end of the spectrum wants to be told if they are behaving inappropriately for the occasion.
Dude. You are behaving inappropriately. You sound like an ass.
Is the idea of wanting to meet a nice person dated?