Does this make me look fat? .
I have always been concerned about the way I look. Chuckle if you want at the idea of a six year old obsessing about appearances, but it happened. I also saw the movie Cool as Ice in the theater in a non-ironic way on a date. That whole relationship seethed with irony, but not the choice of movie. I am not proud of those events, but they happened.
I’m not sure when the pressure to fit a standard of beauty came from. Most of my life much of my extended family has been obsessed with weight. I was six years old when I found out that fitting (no pun intended) a standard that I now know that it is impossible to obtain and maintain was important to how the world valued you.
In kindergarten I knew that it was more important that my school uniform pants were from the “pretty plus” section at Sears than it was that I could read well enough to read to the class. Guess which one made a longer lasting impact on me? (To be fair to Sears, the pretty plus section was endorsed by Winnie the Pooh.)
Why does this bother me now? It bothers me because I am still living my life with a thin veneer (at least my veneer is thin!) of self consciousness because of my size.
I have been trying to lose the same 10 or so pounds for 11 years. I am not ready for Dr. Nozaradan or the crew from any reality show, except maybe Dr. Pimple Popper, I really want to do something about these skin tags.
I watch entirely too much television.
So where does this leave me? I am moderately portly. I can function normally. And for the most part, all of my various doctors are ok with my weight and size. So, does it matter what I look like? Maybe. Several years, ok, decades ago, I was seriously obsessed with my looks.
My entire life, people have been telling me that I have such a pretty face. No one ever said, “It’s too bad about your ass!” Although to be fair, being rejected by various crushes and smug actors/directors did a fine job of that. Even when I was thin, directors wanted me to be thinner.
It’s hard to do and to maintain, and given the limited amount of roles for Hispanic women, chances are good that I would be cast as the maid anyway.
My entire sophomore year of college I dieted like a fiend. I was always hungry and to maintain my acceptable and castable weight goal, I lived off of air popped popcorn, yogurt and Diet Coke.
One day I had to decide if I wanted to actually use my brain or be thin I voted for brain, and ate something with nutrition in it. So here we are three decades later and does it matter what I look like? I had two heartbreaking separations. Both were relationships that I put a lot of time and love into and both dropped on me like a jagular.( I bet you didn’t think I could get back to the Winnie the Pooh reference)
Neither of these heartbreaks had anything to do with my looks. (I’d like to think so.) The reasons I was given were even more insulting. One was because I am dangerous, the other because of geography. Both are ridiculous.
So does it matter? Is the circumference of my thighs going to keep me from pursuing my goals and dreams?
Once again, I choose my brain. But I still like popcorn